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Exceptions To Every Rule

ShaniyaDavis

Like most people, I have my prejudices.  I am a firm believer that, all things being equal or even a little skewed, children that are obviously black or children with African ancestry should be raised with an appreciation for the black community.  I believe that most white people are not familiar enough with the inherit problems of growing up black in America.  Most white people wouldn’t spend five minutes out of a week immersed in black culture with a few exceptions like music, comedy, and little else of substance.

The converse is very different.  Black people are automatically raised with an appreciation for the dominant community.  It is unavoidable.  It is the dominant community that holds the vast majority of the jobs.  It is the dominant community that controls the government and all sources of media.  It is the dominant community that controls so much of America.  You can’t turn on a television, walk by a magazine stand, or do much of anything else without seeing the influence of dominant America.  It is pretty difficult for black people to ignore the white community.

Therefore, in order for the black community to gain the type of compassion from the dominant community that it readily bestows on its own institutions, I feel that the more black people who grow up in the black community, the better chances we will have changing the issues effecting the black community.  Black kids should be raised by black people.  But this morning, I am reminded that there are always exceptions to any rule.

Girl DisappearsThis morning, a little obviously black girl’s life may be in danger and there is a very good chance that she may have already been murdered, because her white father gave up his rights to custody and released her to her black mother.  Five year old Shaniya Davis is the daughter of a white man and a black woman, the product of a one night stand.  Her father, Bradley Lockhart, said that he has been raising his daughter for several years and recently decided to let her stay with her mother, Antoinette Nicole Davis.  Mr. Lockhart said that Ms. Davis struggled to make ends meet for years to make ends meet.  But the woman had recently obtained a job and a place of her own and decided to give her a chance to raise their daughter.  That was about a month ago.

Last week Ms. Davis called authorities in Fayetteville, North Carolina and reported that little Shaniya was missing.  Authorities began searching nearby wooded areas.  Ms. Davis’ current boyfriend was initially charged in the kidnapping.  But the charges were later dropped and he was released.

Girl Disappears NCWhen the story made the local news, a hotel worker remembered seeing a child matching Shaniya’s description at a hotel about forty miles away in Sanford, North Carolina.  Investigators reviewed the hotel’s surveillance video and confirmed that the child was actually Shaniya.  The video showed Mario Andrette McNeill carrying Shaniya into a hotel room.  He has been arrested and charged with the little girl’s kidnapping.  McNeill admitted to taking the girl, though his attorney says he will plead not guilty to the charge.

Since then, authorities have arrested the mother.  Fayetteville police say Ms. Davis faces charges related to human trafficking as well as child abuse involving prostitution and the filing of a false police report.  The local newspaper reported that arrest documents indicate that Ms. Davis knowingly provided her daughter for sexual servitude and acts of prostitution.

All things being equal black children should be raised by black families.  The black community needs black children if the black community is to have a future.  But if black children are to have a future, they need to be in a safe environment, whether in the black community or not.  The need for the black community to have a future should never supersede any child’s safety.  The need for a child to be with his or her parent or parents should never put a child in danger.

Just three weeks after getting her daughter the mother is accused of one seriously heinous crime, the betrayal of the flesh and blood that she gave birth to.  Obviously, this mother has her own devils to deal with.  I actually hope she spends the rest of her natural and unnatural life tormented by the thought of what she may have done.  Unfortunately, at least at the moment, I don’t think she has much of a conscience to dwell on her contribution to this incident.

Girl DisappearsHowever, it appears Mr. Lockhart might actually be dealing with his demons of regret.  Just three weeks after he gives the little girl to the mother she turns up missing.  He is the parent that was most responsible.  Whatever led him to decide to give the girl to the poor excuse of a mother will haunt him for the rest of his life.  Now, Mr. Lockhart says all he wants is his daughter back.  It is truly unfortunate that his choices, whatever his reasoning may have been, ended up going so wrong.

Please keep Shaniya Davis in your thoughts today.

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Like most people, I have my prejudices.  I am a firm believer that, all things being equal or even a little skewed, children that are obviously black or children with African ancestry should be raised with an appreciation for the black community.  I believe that most white people are not familiar enough with the inherit problems of growing up black in America.  Most white people wouldn’t spend five minutes out of a week immersed in black culture with a few exceptions like music, comedy, and little else of substance.

The converse is very different.  Black people are automatically raised with an appreciation for the dominant community.  It is unavoidable.  It is the dominant community that holds the vast majority of the jobs.  It is the dominant community that controls the government and all sources of media.  It is the dominant community that controls so much of America.  You can’t turn on a television, walk by a magazine stand, or do much of anything else without seeing the influence of dominant America.  It is pretty difficult for black people to ignore the white community.

Therefore, in order for the black community to gain the type of compassion from the dominant community that it readily bestows on its own institutions, I feel that the more black people who grow up in the black community, the better chances we will have changing the issues effecting the black community.  Black kids should be raised by black people.  But this morning, I am reminded that there are always exceptions to any rule.

This morning, a little obviously black girl’s life may be in danger and there is a very good chance that she may have already been murdered, because her white father gave up his rights to custody and released her to her black mother.  Five year old Shaniya Davis is the daughter of a white man and a black woman, the product of a one night stand.  Her father, Bradley Lockhart, said that he has been raising his daughter for several years and recently decided to let her stay with her mother, Antoinette Nicole Davis.  Mr. Lockhart said that Ms. Davis struggled to make ends meet for years to make ends meet.  But the woman had recently obtained a job and a place of her own and decided to give her a chance to raise their daughter.  That was about a month ago.

Last week Ms. Davis called authorities in Fayetteville, North Carolina and reported that little Shaniya was missing.  Authorities began searching nearby wooded areas.  Ms. Davis’ current boyfriend was initially charged in the kidnapping.  But the charges were later dropped and he was released.

When the story made the local news, a hotel worker remembered seeing a child matching Shaniya’s description at a hotel about forty miles away in Sanford, North Carolina.  Investigators reviewed the hotel’s surveillance video and confirmed that the child was actually Shaniya.  The video showed Mario Andrette McNeill carrying Shaniya into a hotel room.  He has been arrested and charged with the little girl’s kidnapping.  McNeill admitted to taking the girl, though his attorney says he will plead not guilty to the charge.

Since then, authorities have arrested the mother.  Fayetteville police say Ms. Davis faces charges related to human trafficking as well as child abuse involving prostitution and the filing of a false police report.  The local newspaper reported that arrest documents indicate that Ms. Davis knowingly provided her daughter for sexual servitude and acts of prostitution.

All things being equal black children should be raised by black families.  The black community needs black children if the black community is to have a future.  But if black children are to have a future, they need to be in a safe environment, whether in the black community or not.  The need for the black community to have a future should never supersede any child’s safety.  The need for a child to be with his or her parent or parents should never put a child in danger.

Just three weeks after getting her daughter the mother is accused of one seriously heinous crime, the betrayal of the flesh and blood that she gave birth to.  Obviously, this mother has her own devils to deal with.  I actually hope she spends the rest of her natural and unnatural life tormented by the thought of what she may have done.  Unfortunately, at least at the moment, I don’t think she has much of a conscious to dwell on her contribution to this incident.

However, it appears Mr. Lockhart might actually be dealing with his demons of regret.  Just three weeks after he gives the little girl to the mother she turns up missing.  He is the parent that was most responsible.  Whatever led him to decide to give the girl to the poor excuse of a mother will haunt him for the rest of his life.  Now, Mr. Lockhart says all he wants is his daughter back.  It is truly unfortunate that his choices ended up going so wrong.

Sunday, November 15, 2009 - Posted by | African Americans, Black Community, Black Culture, Black People, Life, Thoughts

7 Comments »

  1. Wow. I heard a snippet leading into the local news about this just prior to heading out for work. Sad story to say the least. Any word on the outcome of finding the little girl?

    Comment by Mike Lovell | Monday, November 16, 2009 | Reply

  2. Damn! This is heart-breaking and I’m pissed!! My wife and I are in the process of adopting a little Black girl through our local Children’s Aid Organization. I don’t know about other jurisdictions, but where we live, if a child becomes “a Ward of the State”, they have been through some terrible shit and there are certainly emotional and psychological issues to deal with… regardless of any other physical, mental or substance abuse related disabilities. I feel for the Father. He was trying to do the right thing by having the girl develop a relationship with her Mother.

    I have always been a strong advocate of Black children being raised in Black families (ideally Black Father and Black Mother based family structure), which is why we decided to adopt a black girl (we already have a “biological” son). However, as I have proceeded through the process and see the needs of the children, now I am a stronger advocate for all children, especially Black children, being raised in a safe environment, regardless of the race and/or even the sexual orientation of the would-be parents. Not ideal… but if it is better/safer than where they are or could be… then I have to support it. “Exception to the Rule”… for sure… but it’s not about me or my beliefs… it’s about what’s best for that child at this time! The Black child can always come to learn about their history, culture and community responsibility later.

    Although the story is heart-breaking, this post gives me even more determination to provide a black child with a loving, safe and nurturing home in which to grow, flourish, excel and fulfill their potential as a human being.

    Question: Do they have any idea where she may be? Thanks.

    Our thoughts and prayers for Shaniya Davis.

    Comment by asabagna | Monday, November 16, 2009 | Reply

  3. Unfortunely little Shaniya’s body has been found this morning on November 16.

    Comment by Dark Frosty | Monday, November 16, 2009 | Reply

  4. Thanks for the update Dark Frosty,

    Everyday we see more and more glimpses into the depth of humanity’s depravity. And just when we think we’ve seen bottom, we are given another example of just how much lower we can sink.

    Peace

    Comment by brotherpeacemaker | Monday, November 16, 2009 | Reply

  5. As a mother it pains me greatly to see mothers or anyone charged with loving a child, do a child harm. I am just tired of seeing these disgusting bastards harming children.

    I don’t care what kind of hardship I was going through my child would never NEVER have to worry about being abused with my approval. I would rather sell myself or better yet, just freaking get help. Give the daughter back to the father and get myself some help or just move on.

    I am totally saddened and disgusted. Thanks for the story and thanks for the update Dark Frosty.

    Comment by theblacksentinel | Monday, November 16, 2009 | Reply

  6. This is just such a sad story. As a mother myself I cannot imagine allowing some man to become between me and my babies the way this woman did. Too many women chose a man over their children and that has got to stop. Children are so vulnerable and precious few people actively advocate in their best interest. We always cry after the child is missing or murdered, we need to give a damn while the precious babies are still with us.

    Comment by Renee | Tuesday, November 17, 2009 | Reply

  7. wow.. this is my first time hearing about the mssing of Shaniya.

    Comment by lovebug35 | Sunday, November 22, 2009 | Reply


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