Changing The Debate From Them To Me
”As for Obama, yeah, he’s a politician and only went to the church as a political ploy. But he spoke truth. And if he helped one black man to see where he needed to be it was well worth it. I only called him ‘the current black leader’ in an earlier post because black people in general embraced him as such since none other since MLK. However, the so-called bastions of all things black wasted an opportunity. Instead of hopping on the train (or getting out of the way) like a good little black soldier supposedly does when one of us takes the reins, the critics nitpicked and disparaged his approach and stances. I guess there really is more to it than to be black, popular and enticing black people to make positive choices for themselves and the race; I guess black unity is less important than getting white folks to see just how instrumental they are to black stagnation. We’ve got to change focus from them to us. Because no law is going to change ‘Ned’ from work into a black advocate. Why are we so quick to jump on a black person who has hundreds of millions and speaks truth from his mansion that he worked hard for, but we’re afraid to tell Shaniqua the truth-you have power insurmountable if you just keep your legs closed and establish a standard for a man (like a real commitment such as marriage before sex), and one day you’ll be respected in the way you and your future children deserve. She needs our critical attention and love ten times more than Cosby-he’s GOT what he needs.” – Carlton
What truth did Mr. Obama speak? More black men are failing in their responsibility to their children than any other race? Is that the truth you believe Mr. Obama speaks? If so, please enlighten me with the numbers that support his truth. But what I believe is that Mr. Obama, Mr. Cosby, and you are more than ready to march in step with popular beliefs that support negative stereotypes about black people. Mr. Obama stiff arms the black community to keep us at bay while steadily embracing the hardworking Americans of the Appalachians and the banjo playing Ozarks. Mr. Obama worked hard to win over the favor of politically geographic areas that were inherently against any Democrat for President, let alone a black one. And to win the favor of these people Mr. Obama is willing to prove he was no cake walk for black people by embracing stereotypes without merit simply because it is popular among the racially generic dominant community that is predominantly white. Mr. Obama likes to play the game a lot of black people like to play in order to reach individual goals and successes. You roll in very successful company.
Mr. Obama has proven that he is not automatically sympathetic to the black community. He is far from being the leader of the black community. As many people have said Mr. Obama never tried to be the President of the black community. He wanted to be the President of America at large. Therefore, it is rather disingenuous for you to call Mr. Obama the leader of the black community and black people must hop on some train like good little soldiers. Shouldn’t white people be good little soldiers as well? You have stated over and over again about how strongly you refuse to follow any black leader but then turn around and say “the so-called bastions of all things black wasted an opportunity.” Now that sounds like hypocrisy.
And typically for black people who focus on individual success at the expense of community success, there is an attempt to paint a call for unity in the black community as trying to convince “white folks to see just how instrumental they are to black stagnation.” You assume much. It’s as if you’re coming here to this discussion with all the baggage of your previous conversations with anybody who disagrees with you about your beliefs on black people individually and the black community as a whole and are dumping all of your assumptions here. There isn’t a single statement in this entire blog since the day it was conceived two years ago about black people convincing white people how instrumental they are to black stagnation. Without a doubt that is a rather small minded summarization of the points being made here about the black community struggle.
You mentioned that we have to change the focus from “them” to “us”. But from everything you’ve written about individual successes, what you really mean is that we have to change the focus from “them” to “me”, me being the individual that doesn’t care about the greater good. The only thing that matters in black unity is individual success. With such a limited concept of community, you would celebrate the success of the individual who makes his or her living stealing or manipulating others in the community.
I have an idea for one of your clients that has the potential to make him or her more successful than could have been imagined. The person can dress up in rags, put a leash around the neck, and stand on the side of a busy intersection with a sign saying will coon for food. The deal is that he or she can rent him or her self out as a coon for white people. Don’t say no to any opportunity to give a white person the leash so the white person can lead the black person around. In a short time, that person will have so much business he or she would have to hire other black people willing to coon off a leash. It would be a mega sensation. The original coon would be reaching others to teach others so that will fit your definition of black community. It is a win-win situation for you meager definition of black community.
I hope you realize I’m not serious. But I wouldn’t be surprised to see someone try this and become a star bigger than Oprah and Cosby combined.
”[T]he conservatives love it when we’re doing exactly this-fighting over a week about some heartfelt comment made by a lady who loves her black man and children. I don’t need your approval or to ‘win’ this difference of opinion. I have children I’ve invested in since 1992 calling me up and saying what a difference I made to them and the difference they are making in the world today because of time I spent and things I said. Their actions speak to me louder than any smug point made in a blog ever could. Good luck in your travels-I’ll continue to watch your journey…but from here on in, from afar. I refuse to be a part of black dis-unity.” – Carlton
Who is fighting? I’m reaching one to teach one. You have the nerve to talk about black “dis-unity” and yet you were the one coming here to defend the honor of some white woman from me. I’m trying to show the people who may come to this blog, who might have some empathy for the black community, how irrational some of the thought processes are for some people who insist that they love the black community as wel but do not hesitate to adhere to unsubstantiated racial stereotypes that do little to help black people individually or as a whole and a lot to support myths of black inferiority.
You don’t need my approval? Of course not. You have all those phone calls giving you all the approval you will ever need. One has to wonder why you even bother coming here at all. But then again, there was that white woman married to a black man that I disagreed with that you were compelled to defend. If you are not trying to win an argument, that’s a very good thing. The way your reasoning unravels under the simplest application of logic, I seriously doubt if you would succeed at winning anything here.
Good luck with those phone calls! And thanks for being my inspiration for so many articles.