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Call Me Anything But Black

Venus Williams

On July 7th, using a white Wilson Factor limited edition tennis racket, Venus Williams won her fourth Wimbledon Title beating Marion Bartoli in two straight sets. Twenty third ranked Ms. Williams beat the second seed Maria Sharapova, the fifth seed Svetlana Kuznetsova, and the sixth seed Ana Ivonavic, and a number of other players to win the title. A number of people had written Ms. Williams off as a has been, but the twenty seven year old from Lynwood, California made a lot of people chomp on their gloomy forecast of her career and her skills.

I was reading about Ms. Williams’ achievement in a story on the internet’s Yahoo! News. The story included a brief interview with Ms. Williams’ boyfriend, pro golfer Hank Kuehne, who was very supportive and proud of his woman. I can’t remember what he said exactly. But, once I read Ms. Williams had a boyfriend, I suddenly had the urge to look up who this guy was. That’s not quite true and I should confess that I suddenly had the urge to look the man up to see what race he was. I had suspected that the man was white. I don’t follow golf but if there was a black golfer, especially one dating Venus Williams, I would like to think that I would have heard about him by now. But my suspicions were confirmed when I found his picture.

A number of high profile young black celebrities do little to hide and a lot to promote their preference for an interracial relationship. This phenomenon should be no surprise considering how many black celebrities do their best to distance themselves from the blackness. These days, to call someone with an obvious elevated melatonin count as black could result in a civil suit for slander or libel for defamation of character.

Ask an obviously black celebrity a question like, what kind of impact do you feel your example makes on the black community? A typical response may go something like, Well my mother was only ninety two percent black. My mother’s grandmother’s father was half white so that makes me three percent Caucasian. I’d like to ignore the fact that his other half was Mexican. My father was black but he was adopted by a Japanese woman and an Irish man when his mother, their maid, passed. So technically, by association, the fourteen years he spent in their household was good for a six percent association a piece so if you divide their input by two and correlate the remainder against the obvious, but yet to be proven, black majority of heritage and you’ll see I have a great deal of marketability to a number of different races. If those black children see me as a role model I really must say that I don’t want to be considered a, quote unquote, “black” (raise hands to make sure you visually add quotations to the speech) celebrity. Also, I must add that my mother was propositioned by a man from the Philippines once who looked like he was from Tibet. So to summarize, I think I have appeal to virtually every race on the planet. I like to think of my self as a Causianblajapirishtibetian.

Some people look at black celebrities who are able to shed the stigma of being obviously black and commend them for their success at adopting a more generic persona that has appeal for people of all races, not just, quote unquote, “black” people. However, this is more of the subtle negative programming that goes into being a black person in America. Black people have been programmed to believe in order to be truly successful one must reject the black neighborhood, the black community, the black history, the black condition, and now the blackness we see in the mirror. I understand how people may want to do whatever they can to keep their marketability as high as possible to earn as much as financially possible. But a number of black people have been able to do very well for themselves and keep their overall public appeal without doing anything to reject or minimize their African ancestry. History is chock full of black actors, singers, athletes, business people, and others who managed to keep their obvious racial integrity intact without succumbing to the need to deny who they are and where they come from. And very few white celebrities come out and say things like, Well my daddy’s mother’s father was one third black so technically I have appeal to everybody. White celebrities automatically have their mass appeal without doing their genealogy speech.

And whether or not these obviously black celebrities realize it or not they are teaching impressionable people and children in the black community to dump that African baggage at their earliest opportunity. A lot of people watch and learn from their example on how to deny their ancestry. And a lot of black people who suffer from the condition of not liking or appreciating their blackness are more than happy to follow their playbook and assimilate into the generic American culture while rejecting their African culture. They may choose only to date other races or they may choose to minimize or even deny their heritage. Some may go so far as to call themselves mutts or a Cablinasian. More than likely they would welcome the chance to be an Anythingbutblackian.

Friday, July 27, 2007 - Posted by | African Americans, Black Community, Black Culture, Black People, Venus Williams


  1. I am euphorically happy that Venus has a love; and if he’s white, well, so be!!! I have yet to hear any black young man, athlete or not, expressing a strong desire to be with her. I’ve had to defend Venus’s attractiveness so many times from comments like “she’s butt ugly,” or she/they look like men. Obviously, none of the black male athletes out there have been sufficiently struck by her, maybe she’s too dark! Look at whom they go hankering after. Apparently to them, despite her great accomplishments, absence of scandal, and elegant carriage, she’s not their idea of a trophy. So, if a white man can appreciate and really love her, then kudos for her and him. GO FOR IT GIRL!! BE HAPPY AND BE LOVED.

    Comment by Linda Robtham | Monday, July 30, 2007 | Reply

  2. You’re missing my point entirely. Venus Williams is just an example of the bigger picture here. So many black celebrities are distancing themselves from the black community. True, we don’t see many black men trying to date Ms. Williams. But neither do we see her trying to identify with the black community. This isn’t happening in a vacuum. It is a phenomenon of young black celebrities. If Ms. Williams finds the love of her life in a white guy then I wish her the best. However, it is disappointing that she, and many like her, do so little to identify with the black community.


    Comment by brotherpeacemaker | Tuesday, July 31, 2007 | Reply

  3. Venus and Serena’s problem is the problem of Black-skinned women in amerikkka.The total rejection almost of our most beautiful Black-skinned sisters and the projection of the closest to the white bitch goddess as the most beautiful is what forces such sisters to white boys. Mulatto mentality is our plague and we must start to reject it and tell our children that the BLACK skinned beauty is the most beautiful and raise them that way no matter what white racism is promoting. Black skinned sisters should not be afraid to visit Africa as often as they can to learn that they are beautiful and highly desired by BLACK men.Our Black publications must feature BLACK skinned beauties on a constant basis. African brothers,West Indian Brothers must compliment these BLACK beauties and show them that the white boy’s standard of beauty is not acceptable in the BLACK community. BLACK must be really seen as BEAUTIFUL! And Serena and Venus must not destroy their line and BLACK children by mating with white boys no matter how hard the brothers treat them! I’m praying on this rejection of BLACK skin color in amerikkka and I know that in
    the name of BLACK Jesus we will win over it!
    your Sister who came back to Africa 27 years ago,to Yorubaland and raised 4 BLACK children who know that
    the BLACKEST skin is the most beautiful in the world,
    Yeye Akilimali Funua Olade

    Comment by Yeye Akilimali Funua Olade | Wednesday, August 1, 2007 | Reply

  4. So wait – are you proposing that black clebrities shouldn’t be allowed to date white? I thought the whole idea of love was that it’s colorblind, and you asking venus to fall in love with a black man instead just to promote a relationship, or to have better PR or whatever, is ridiculous.

    Comment by Daniel | Wednesday, August 15, 2007 | Reply

  5. Exactly! I’m saying there should be a law that says black people shouldn’t be allowed to date white people just as much as you are saying that there should be a law that says black celebrities should be required to date only white people? Judging by your attitude and the fact that this is all you got from the article, it is a sure bet that I’d be wasting my time trying to talk to you.


    Comment by brotherpeacemaker | Wednesday, August 15, 2007 | Reply

  6. Where did Venus EVER claim not to be Black?

    Comment by miceelf | Thursday, August 23, 2007 | Reply

  7. My bad! I gave Ms. Williams that label based on the color of her skin. I will be more careful in the future.


    Comment by brotherpeacemaker | Thursday, August 23, 2007 | Reply

  8. I think that Venus and her sister are very beautiful African American women. They are truly queens in my eyes. Both are talented, smart, very sucessful, and rich. Rich there’s a word. I bet you any amount of money if Venus was not rich that white boy would not have anything to do with her. If she was just a sista from the hood walking down the street Mr. Kuehne would walk on by! She better jumped back over the fence. He is going to chew her up and spit her out. Nothing has changed. I have a friend (Black) who is married to a white man. When he get angry with her has used the the N word on her. But that’s her stupidity. I hope in Venus situation this will not be the case for her heart purposes. Her skin color has nothing to do with her not being attractive for the black man. My man is so dark you can’t even see him and I love him to death because of that. She need to stop playing and jump back over.

    Comment by Zetta | Monday, August 27, 2007 | Reply

  9. Thank you Zetta!

    I have no choice but to agree with you! If Venus wasn’t rich that white boy would never openly date her. The only relationship they’d have would be the business kind in the back on an alley in the backseat of his car. Whether or not Venus is beautiful or not isn’t the issue. I happen to think that she could be a very attractive sister. But since she is so focused on minimizing her blackness and embracing white culture so strongly she can’t do a thing for me regardless of the number of zeros in her bank account or the length of her hair weave.

    The same thing can be said of Tiger Woods. He could be a handsome African American man if only he would make the choice to embrace his African American identity and not the kind of identity that makes him some kind of white woman chasing wanna be. Black men and women who say that their black brothers and sisters are not acceptable mates for personal relationships really need to evaluate how they feel about themselves.

    If someone truly happens to fall for someone outside their race that truly respects their culture is one thing. Such a relationship is beautiful and should be nurtured. But black people who chase nothing but white people and avoid having relationships with other black people like the plague is another thing altogether. Such people and their relationships are not helpful to their black community. Black people who wish to have relationships with other black people and raise black children are the key to the black community’s future.


    Comment by brotherpeacemaker | Monday, August 27, 2007 | Reply

  10. There are plenty of African American men who choose to date white. Look at Montel Williams he has never denied the fact that he only prefers white women, in his words he claims that when he was just starting out and had no money and a car, black women did not want to be with him, well what does he think that white women want him for. Granted, he is good looking but if he were poor white women would not give him the time of day. Also, he has been married 3 times and is now on the 4th, give the sister’s chance and maybe you might not be 3 times divorced. In defence of the siters out there, and I am half black and Jewish, yes the Lisa Bonet type. I think that black men cannot handle the strong hand of a real black woman, white women are easy to manipulate and they will do for a man what a sister will not do. This is what most court shows are made of, white women who will buy cars, pay bills, by cell phones in exchange for the affections of these men.

    Comment by Cynthia | Tuesday, October 9, 2007 | Reply

  11. Montel Williams is a case in point. A black woman wouldn’t give him the time of day when he was trying to get on his feet back in the day. But now he’s been dumped by three white women and is on the forth. But he would never think, “Oh! White women are treating me bad so I’m going to go back to sisters!” The excuse that black toms give that they were rejected by another black person back in the day but are constantly being rejected by white people in the mean time is just stupid. I refuse to buy that slop!


    Comment by brotherpeacemaker | Tuesday, October 9, 2007 | Reply

  12. May I just ask one fundamental question? Why are you equating Venus winning in tennis to race? Sure, she is a very successful black, female tennis player, but why even bother stating her race? Surely, she is a fantastic player, be she Black, White, Hispanic or whatever, why does it matter! I’m a proud black male, and just hate the fact people like you seem to be pointing flaws in equality these days. People are people my friend, ignore the colour of skin and treat as you would like to be treated. By you pointing out flaws in equality, calling all white men racists, surely, aren’t you as bad as them? Please, lay off the preaching, and don’t expect a reply, i doubt i will visit this website ever again.

    Love your culture, forget about the colour.

    Comment by adam | Sunday, November 4, 2007 | Reply

  13. Some brothas may disagree but I think Venus is more attractive than Serena… bu this is just from my eyes mind!

    Comment by Damien | Tuesday, November 13, 2007 | Reply

  14. Only people who are proud to be black, should be recognised as black, we devalue ourselves accepting people that other racial catagories don’t want. I couldn’t care less these coconuts are castrati

    Comment by lifeisannoying | Thursday, December 6, 2007 | Reply

  15. Oluwa seun!(We thank God in Yoruba!)My prayers are having an effect! Serena has now dropped her white boy and is with a Brother! Now I told you that the problem was not getting a BLACK brother to appreciate their beauty is what drives BLACK-skinned beauties to white boys.As soon as that sister sees a BLACK man who will love her she will come running back home! Now Venus since your Sister has seen one(many actually cause Serena,after dropping her white boy, has had at least 2 Brothers before this BIG Brother, the hip-hop singer Brother Common) yours is on the way! GOD is in control! I just know that the BLACK MAN IS GOD’S GIFT TO THE BLACK WOMAN! SO hang in there sisters!

    Comment by SISTER YEYE AKILIMALI FUNUA OLADE | Monday, January 14, 2008 | Reply

  16. “You’re missing my point entirely.”

    No, YOU’RE missing the point. You have it backwards. Most black men do.

    You say you see this:

    True, we don’t see many black men trying to date Ms. Williams. But neither do we see her trying to identify with the black community.


    Perhaps this

    “we don’t see many black men trying to date Ms. Williams”

    is the CAUSE of this:

    “we don’t see her trying to identify with the black community”

    Honestly, what if it were you? What self-serving, self-centered “brotha” would want to be part of a “community” that acted like it didn’t want HIM?

    Seems like you “brothas” don’t think about that. You don’t consider how YOUR actions might impact whether a sista continues to choose to be associated with your “community”.

    Waaaaay too often, “black community concerns” is code for “what’s best for the Black man; to hell with what the Black WOMAN needs from her man and from her community”.

    “This isn’t happening in a vacuum.”

    You got that right.

    I don’t actually think you’re correct about her distancing herself from “da community” either. Before the U.S. Open she was honored by a pantheon of Black women legends (Roberta Flack, Aretha Franklin, and Dr. Mae Jemison come to mind) who came and stood with her in the opening ceremonies.

    But since all that happened in the part of the “community” that you “brothas” don’t give a regular damn about — Black WOMEN — never mind that it was played out on a national stage; it just didn’t even come up on your radar, did it?

    And I don’t hear Mr. Tiger “married the blonde nanny” Woods or Mr. Kobe “gave his non-black (again!) wife a $4 million infidelity diamond after banging the blonde girl” Bryant getting raked over the coals by you “brothas” for “abandoning the community” either.

    Nooooo, no. To hear you brothas tell it, it’s always Black WOMEN’s “problem”, or “bad choice”, or “fault”.

    Finally, what Linda said. Every word. Family is the CORNERSTONE of community. Finding someone to care for us and help us nurture our families is what just about every Black woman wants, so that we can build a healthy community.

    But as long as you “brothas” continue to refuse to see it, guess we’re gonna have to figure out a way to do it ourselves.

    Just like everything else that actually gets DONE in the “black community”.

    Comment by rrr | Friday, February 8, 2008 | Reply

  17. rrr,

    I guess you don’t read this blog often because BrotherP DOES rake both those guys over the coals for the very things that you speak of. And also, I being a black woman also agree that we as black PEOPLE need to think about the black community. It isn’t a code word for anything. You sound like a black lady needing confirmation on dating interracially. Now whether that is the case or not you can’t sit and say that brotha’s don’t step to Ms. Williams since how the hell would any of us know that. If they ask and she says NO then that would not make headlines would it?

    The problem is which is in this article is that we have sisters and brothers abandoning the community. And half the time they are pairing up and abandoning the community with their assimilation.

    Stop with the brother bashing, NOT ALL black men are pathetic, uncaring or jungle fever having losers. That is just more propaganda! Are your brothers, uncles and dad those types of brothers you speak of? I would have to hope they aren’t.


    Comment by theblacksentinel | Friday, February 8, 2008 | Reply

  18. rrr,

    It would be a logical assumption that your code for the black community can be summed up as black men can kiss your ass. To say that your hatred of black men is glaring would be a woeful understatement. Is your need to justify you dating non black men so weak that you have to spouse such hatred of the black community? I’m sorry if some black man has hurt you. I’m sorry if you saw the Color Purple and it just reminded you that every black man in your life has done nothing but caused you problems. But that shouldn’t justify you turning back on every black man, woman, or child that crosses your path. I’m sure if you took an objective look at your life there have been some black people who have been positive in your life. And some of them have been black men.

    You obviously don’t read this blog often. Tiger Woods, Kobe Bryant, Montel Williams, and more have been the subject of this blogger. So I really can’t take offense to anything you’re saying since you so obviously don’t know what you’re talking about. If you ever care to have a rational exchange with me feel free to come back. But until then you need to calm down and chill. Come back when you’re ready to listen to reason.


    Comment by brotherpeacemaker | Friday, February 8, 2008 | Reply

  19. Well I guess this is the best we can hope for in regards to a discussion about interacial relationships when none of the participants have any literacy in basic genetic theory. All the remarks here assume that there is validity to the very American habit of applying the one drop of blood rule.Americans seem to possess a mental lazyness that precludes any serious analysis that might be dependent upon objective empirical data interpretation and inference from controlled observation. Well as they say.. you get what you pay for.

    Comment by Science Guy | Thursday, June 19, 2008 | Reply

  20. Thanks for the feedback Science Guy,

    But racism isn’t dependent on genetic testing. Nobody is putting that much thought in to such thoughtless behavior. Is your point that people need to have literacy in basic genetic theory before they can discriminate? That really doesn’t sound all that well thought out. Talk about mental lazyness. Or maybe it’s just ethical and moral lazyness.


    Comment by brotherpeacemaker | Thursday, June 19, 2008 | Reply

  21. Man first of all i was bewildered when i saw Sarena williams was Dating a white guy , i was so dumbfounded that i could’nt stop thinking about it , I mean after all that they had been through you know with there dad teaching them about the hardships that they would encounter on and off the court i thought she would love nothing more than to be with a black man, but when i saw that she was with that guy my jaw dropped to the floor, I mean what black celebrity did’nt want to be with Serena, with all of that body and what not, but honestly I was so offended that i just stopped supporting her, I can’t even watch her on tv any longer , for some reason i felt betrayed, My focus then went to Venus i felt like there was still hope, So how do you think i felt when I saw who she was dating, It was like my dog had died.

    Comment by Derrick Jackson | Friday, July 18, 2008 | Reply

  22. Thanks for the feedback Derrick Jackson,

    I know how you feel! But it’s not just the Williams sisters. The same is true about Tiger Woods, Wesley Snipes, Taye Diggs, Halle Berry, Garcelle Beauvais, Sanaa Lathan, Sade, and too many more.


    Comment by brotherpeacemaker | Friday, July 18, 2008 | Reply

  23. Brother Peacemaker, Don’t get discouraged cause we are winning. More and more Black women/men are coming back home to Black partners who make real Black children!! Black women you too don’t give in to bitterness. There are still good Brothers around so instead of using energy looking,start praying and getting closer to God and God will bring your husband/Black man better than any choice you could ever make/have/see by yourself. It’s really a Spiritual thing and when we learn to love our Beautiful Black selves, Black God in heaven will provide our true partner!Since Serena is now with a Brother, I won’t give up on Venus. And as has been pointed out all these straying Brothers/Sisters are never happy with these alien partners and one day too they will see their BLACK mate who will satisfy their BLACK SOULS. Reminds me of Sammy davis jr.-got all the white girls he could get but none satisfied until a very smart,Black skinned Sister nailed him by giving him all the BLACK RESPECT he needed! Sisters we gotta give the BROTHERS more respect,that is really the key!

    Comment by SISTER YEYE AKILIMALI FUNUA OLADE | Thursday, October 16, 2008 | Reply

  24. she plays tennis she is not a rocket scientist, what do you expect?

    Comment by tonia thomas nwachuku | Wednesday, January 12, 2011 | Reply

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