White Woman Married To Black Man…
Forget “black communities” and “white communities!” Have you ever even considered the fact that two people might be IN LOVE?! Of course I notice he’s a black man and of couse he notices I’m a white woman. Our backgrounds and upbringings are so incredibly different but that makes the relationship awesomely interesting. Our daughter is going to have the best of both worlds sice we are both incredibly close with one anothers families. Nobody but hippie RACISTS think about “weakening the black and white communities”. . . come on man it’s the year 2009. I’m not stupid, I know there are racists out there but if someone is racist they aren’t going to be in a relationship with someone of a different race just to “weaken” the other race. hahaha I’m sorry I just have to laugh about this because of how obsurd it is that you think that peoples motive when they participate in an interratial relationship is to weaken it or that they even think about that. Every black mans goal is not to bring up “strong black children.” Some men like my husband want to bring up strong, wonderful, smart human beings that are just that. . . HUMAN BEINGS! Get a grip.
Thanks for the feedback whitewomanmarriedtoblackman,
You may not be stupid. Although I have begun to develop an impression of you, I really don’t know if you are stupid or not. But one thing I do know for sure is that you are incredibly naive to think that the black community is not weakened by black people who abandon it so quickly and easily. I know nothing about your relationship with your black husband and I won’t pretend to know by trying to pigeonhole the two of you into the stereotypical black/white relationship. I would like to believe that the two of you share equally in a healthy relationship that respects each other’s culture and history. But all too often, black people who enter into interracial relationships are quick to kick their black community to the curb.
I don’t know for sure if you’re stupid or not, but I will have to question your intellect if you think my supposition is that racist are getting with black people for the sole purpose of weakening the black community. That doesn’t even make sense to me and I wonder if you’re even bothering to read anything I write or to think about what is written with an unprejudiced perspective.
But one thing I will say is that many, and please note that does not mean all, white people who date people in the black community are enablers who are quick to encourage black people to transcend their race and join the racially generic dominant community that is predominantly white and abandon or minimize any connection or affiliation to the black community. There was a time where black people who dated white people remained proud of their black heritage. Now, black people who date exclusively outside the black community could not care any less about the black community. Any association with the black community is at best superficial.
A lot of children who come from an interracial relationship where one of the parents is obviously black and another parent is obviously white don’t want to be affiliated with the black community. Being black is perceived as some kind of anathema. I can only guess that in this obviously mixed relationship, the parents fail to give the child any positive connection to the black community. The child’s perspective of the black community will be shaped by a society that obviously thinks black people are of lesser value.
I remember not too long ago my woman was having this same type of exchange with a man from the black community and a woman from the white community who swore on their children’s heads that they were a loving interracial couple without a single hang up and were respectful of each other’s racial identity. They referred to the black man as being brown skinned while the white woman was free to be white. The man scoffed at the idea of being black because if you looked at him his skin was not black, it was brown. When asked was the woman’s skin actually white and why they didn’t use a more accurate description for her pigmentation, the couple hemmed and hawed about how it didn’t really matter how they referred to each other. This was a perfect example of the double racial standard that they were more than happy to live with. Their alleged mutual respect was nothing more than the black man acquiescing to the dominant community way of life and his black community affiliation was rejected in favor of a more racially generic lifestyle that tends to point the finger at black people for saying anything about the continuing racial animosity in this country.
All too often black people looking for interracial relationships or a relationship with someone other than black are black people who have hang ups about their own blackness. People who fall in love with people who just so happen to be on opposing sides of the racial divide are not the subject here. Who am I to stand in the way of true love?
But brothers and sisters whose love for non blacks is inspired by a hatred of self or a hatred of the black community should not be given a pass simply because they find a willing collaborator as an excuse to leave the black community behind. And you are absolutely correct. There are a lot of black people who have absolutely zero interest in raising children with a strong black affiliation. That happens to be the exact phenomenon which leads to a weaker black community and a strong racially generic community that heavily favors white privilege. I believe most people express the obviousness of something like this as, “DUH!”
Lastly, you find my position absurd. I’m not surprised and the feeling is mutual. I find many people from the racially generic dominant community like you absurd as well. But while you are free to laugh because you believe the impact to you and yours is rather limited, the black community is in trouble. By every social measure the black community suffers the shitty end of comparison. Whether it is health care, employment, education, wealth, justice, representation or whatever you wish to use as a measure, the black community always comes up short. Some of us don’t have the luxury of simply forgetting who comes from the black community and who comes from the white community.
You are on point I have nothing else to say.
Well I personally question this ladies intelligence and logic. She seems to have read a bunch of things into the original post that just wasn’t there.
Such as where did she get the thought that you were saying white people were going out of their way to marry blacks just to weaken the race? How stupid!
Not to mention she basically makes your point when she says that her black husband and other black men don’t want to raise strong black children. Just like you said, isn’t that weakening the black community?
And if those black men aren’t raising strong BLACK children then what are they raising? Hmmm, makes me wonder. This is nothing more than a person who wishes to downplay any and all instances of blacks helping to weaken our community.
Your answer to her was succinct and totally on point. Great job.
Yayyyy!
Just remember that biracial children that live in America are for all intents and purpose black children-just ask Barack Obama and Tiger Woods. White folks are not deceived into believing these people are at all white. So where does that leave them if we reject their obvious blackness also?
And besides, I reject the “us vs. them” mentality that seems to pervade through much of your argument. Attack racism wherever it lives, but embrace togetherness wherever you can.
To focus on these people’s hangups are unfair because we all have them (length of hair, shape of body, color of skin) and what difference does it make if it is a big booty or blue eyes that first catch our physical attention? The human animal is complex; I hold that a black guy who won’t speak to sister that doesn’t have a big butt is just as “depraved” as a guy who won’t speak to a sister, period.
Finally, I enjoy your musings and most of the time you’re totally on point, but remember, if a contingent of Blacks were brought together to grade how “black” your column is, I’d dare say that most would be critical of your frequent parallels to white penned comic books and sci-fi. It doesn’t bother ME (it’s actually a little refreshing), but does remind me that we all buy into the majority society to some degree in order to move forward at anything quicker than a snail’s pace. If you don’t believe me, show up to work looking like a Kenyan tribesman.
Besides, to reject whiteness is to reject ourselves to some degree. Rather by hook or crook, 60% (some say more) of us American Blacks have white blood coursing right alongside the black.
Finally, we will ALWAYS have a black culture because black doesn’t melt well in this pot and we will always need each other. I don’t think that black people are ignoring black culture to their biracial children-just “ghetto” culture something I’m sure you do also if you’re smart. There are lessons to be learned from the ghetto, but they need to be run through the parental filter be the children black, biracial or white as rice.
Thanks for the feedback Carlton,
I’m not surprised that you minimize this entire issue to an us vs. them perspective. You want to pretend that racism is the exception when all evidence point to it being very much the rule. Most people want to ignore the fact that generally speaking the black community comes up short in every social measure. Most people ignore the fact that unarmed black men are regularly murdered by police officers and black people are regularly depicted as loud mouths, thugs, miscreants, and criminals. We regularly accept the argument that someone black is simply up to no good while someone who is obviously white has a reason for their behavior that we should try to understand and help them if we can.
Last year, at the peak of the political primary races, a white man strapped himself with duct tape and junk to make it look like he had a bomb strapped to his chest and walked into a Hillary for President storefront. He held the people their hostage and kept the police and authorities at bay for hours. People took the time to reason with him and determine his troubles. He was unemployed and facing financial troubles. The standoff ended peacefully without anybody getting hurt. Time Magazine did an article on that man and how he represents a growing frustration in middle America.
But sometime prior to that, a black woman calls the police about her black teenage son with a history of mental problems. The son was ranting loudly and the woman wanted help to control him. When the police arrived, the young man held them at bay with a hairbrush. The police shot him dead five minutes after they arrived on the scene. Who has time to spend fooling around with a mentally ill black man?
We live in a society that regularly promotes discrimination against black people and rewards black people who keep the black community at bay. Tiger Woods doesn’t even consider himself black. He’s some mixture of ethnicities that defies description. The idea that Mr. Woods represents blackness or the best interest of the black community is genuinely ludicrous. The idea that Mr. Woods is a role model for black children and other impressionable black people does not bode well for the black community. Mr. Woods assumes that the black community is not important. His children will grow up learning that the black community is not important. This weakens the black community. Personally, I have never heard Mr. Woods say that he’s not ghetto. However, I have heard him say time and time again that he is not black.
In his bid for the white house, the only time Mr. Obama allowed himself to visit the black community was when he went to the black church and told black fathers to quit being the epitome of irresponsiblity. Based on what information does Mr. Obama feel that black fathers are more irresponsible than other fathers? There are five times more white children growing up in houses without fathers. Why does the black community need singling out? This is the same Mr. Obama who is more than happy to go to the Jewish community and promises that the United States will protect Israel’s interest without reservation. Why can Mr. Obama make such a pledge to people halfway around the world but refuses to say anything about solidarity to the black community in America’s borders? The fact that a black president can turn his back on the black community weakens the significance of the black community.
As far as the embrace of racial togetherness goes, I’m all for that when it happens. I have nothing against anybody who is able to reach across the racial divide without hesitation or reservation or limitations. But to think that this is America’s normal operating procedure when dealing with black people is to fool one’s self into thinking that we really do care about our racial divide. And one thing I have learned is that America as a whole is about healing the racial divide as a klan rally is about promoting equal opportunity to blacks.
The fact that you find my supposition a rejection of white people does not surprise me. In America, to challenge the establishment is to be minimized as little more than someone who rejects white people. Just about anyone who holds up a mirror to America’s face and says look at your racism is considered an enemy of the state. It doesn’t mean that it is any less true.
I will admit that I have embraced American culture as much as anyone else. How can you live in this country and not adhere to its social policies and its rules for social behavior especially as a black person? But I also refuse to accept America’s orthodox thinking that says black people are inferior, disposable, and less than. Embracing America does not mean I have to embrace racial doublestandards that leave the black community to its fate of being nothing more than a collection of second class people. It would be wonderful if more people accepted such a position on both sides of the racial divide. Simply saying we are equal does not make it so. Especially when every measurement of social wellbeing says that the black community is not being treated fairly. Don’t take my word for it. Just open your eyes and look.
Peace
BrotherP,
I love the answer you just gave to Carlton. It summed up everything that people are overlooking in the post. This post in no way is saying that black people who fall in love with a white person is somehow a traitor.
It is just saying that if and when a black person decided to NOT teach their children to be strong black community members we are suffering. And you can see that by looking at this “ghetto” that Carlton refers to. We wouldn’t have a black ghetto if the successful and middle class blacks didn’t run for the white community at the first opportunity.
Not only do they run for the white community they tell their children to run as well. We will never be a strong and independent community if we can’t even stick together. You don’t see white people running from other white people. They do run from poor not from white. They don’t tell their children to run to Asian communities etc.
I just wanted to say that you hit the nail directly on the head with this comment. Thanks.
I don’t disagree with a thing you said in your reply. I grew up in the projects so I know what pressures are placed on black people firsthand. I grew up as the presumed perpetrator. But I, like most of us, cycled that energy into proving my detractors wrong.
I wasn’t citing Barack and Tiger as these great examples of biracial perfection. I was saying the opposite: despite their whitewashed examples, the first thing that most white people see when they see them is “blackness”. And with that comes a certain level of rejection. If we want to be better than them, why are we doing the same thing by rejecting what they have to offer (even when they don’t consider themselves black, per se)? We should be embracing all the Baracks and Tigers we can. Black culture needs their dimension, their perspective, their blackness as a part of our rich spectrum. Any condemnation of what two people who build their lives together decide to do only enriches us. The Huxtables are just as relevant as the Evanses (from Good Times) or the Muslims down the street or the americanized Afrikaners. It’s all black. It’s all valid. I took my history and culture to college, to work and to past relationships I have had with women and friends of all colors. If we want whites to be more inclusive and accepting, we’ve got to be the shining example and not laugh TOO hard every time we see Michael Steele in action…he’s black too.
Carlton,
What you’re proposing sounds like the Doctor Smith Syndrome. Dr. Smith, played by Jonthan Harris in the series and later redone on the silver screen by Gary Oldman, was the nemesis of the Robinson family in Lost in Space. Despite everything the Robinson family did for him, Dr. Smith wouldn’t hesitate to screw them over if he could get a personal benefit out of it. By the same token, despite the fact that Dr. Smith would regularly bite the hand that fed him, the Robinson family would take Dr. Smith with them wherever they went. If Major West had his way Dr. Smith would’ve found himself floating to the next planet on the other side of the airlock.
But every week, with resources stretched to the limit and danger lurking on every planet they encounter, the Robinson family made enough room on the Jupiter 2 to take Dr. Smith along to the next thrilling episode. It never occurred to anybody that Dr. Smith could simply disappear or have an accident in the chariot. If I was on the Jupiter 2, Dr. Smith would’ve had a fatal accident before the first commercial break. Hey Peacemaker, are those your fingerprints on that durlotronium pipe sticking out the back of Dr. Smith’s head?
Just because someone is black does not make them a benefit to the black community. I don’t have a problem of cutting black people off who would rather see the black community exist only in a history book. If Tiger Woods was hit by a truck tonight, the impact (no pun intended) to the black community would be minimal. The same holds true for Michael Steele and other black Republicans like Clarence Thomas. The same holds true for many black celebrities who use their notoriety to buck and dance jigs for the racially generic culture that is predominantly controlled by white people. Trust me, the black community would do better if all the jigging stopped and black celebrities like Snoop Dogg and D.L. Hughley and Jason Whitlock crawled back under a rock somewhere.
The idea of rejecting black people who reject the black community is one that I personally feel more black people need to embrace. Instead, we want to become black community enablers quick to turn the other cheek in order to prove how much better we are. The black community will go straight to hell with that kind of thinking.
If somebody is a thief that is stealing you blind, if somebody is a pedophile waiting to stalk your children, if someone is a murderer waiting for you to go to sleep, what’s the point of keeping such people around? The same goes for the black community. If a black person wants to turn their back on the black community, supports the racial status quo or reinforces all the negative stereotypes against black people, what is the point of keeping these people as part of our black culture? Why does the black community need the added dimension, the perspective, the blackness of black people who want to be anything but black?
The way I see it, our rich spectrum is poorer for the continued contribution of some high profile blacks to the condition of total assimilation to the racial status quo. The black community needs these people like we need fly pimps and crack addicts.
Some black people find these black turncoats attractive simply because they are admired by the majority of people in the dominant community. The dominant community embraces them because they reinforce the idea that black people can make it in America if they just work hard or have a talent that people in the white community want to pay to see. The black community is programmed to buy into the idea of black people working hard to overcome racial disparity. And if Oprah can do it, by golly any black person can do it.
But the truth of the matter is that for every Oprah or Tiger or Barack, there are millions of black people who exist at the opposite end of the spectrum proving that racial disparity is alive and well and most efficient in assuring that the black community keeps its second class status. And because the black community refuses to point to these people and admonish their duplicity, because we refuse to speak with a single voice to reject those who reject us, many black people are duped into thinking black people who reject the black community are somehow necessary to enrich the black spectrum of experience.
The very idea that the black community benefits by harboring black people who would rather be recognized as a unique ethnic mixture instead of being seen as black people is a concept that escapes my definition of sensible. It might be all black. But it is far from prudent and far from being a benefit to the black community. It only weakens the black community to think that we need to include black people who refuse to be black.
Peace
I know we’ll never convince each other so this will probably be my last post on this. But here goes: I don’t know if you believe me, but I’ve actually made a lot of your points on other forums full of conservatives who love to point to the few famous blacks who came from “less than” and love to pull out that tired “by your bootstraps” phrase like anyone from my neighborhood has boots, or if they do-ones that fit properly much less with straps on them? Not only that, why is it that people of other races assume that most black people are even LOOKING to be a CEO of a Fortune 500 company or one of the other jobs they tout as the tantamount of this thing called success?
But I must insist-once we as black people start putting blackness in a box-labeling what is and isn’t black-that is the day we limit who and what we are as a people…and ultimately how far we can go. No matter what we do, even surround ourselves with the whitest of all things white, believe me it won’t dilute your “blackness”. If you don’t believe me, put on some Lacoste, wax up the Volvo, strap Buffy into the passenger seat beside you, and try to get into a gated community in Bel Air. You’ll be reminded real quick just how black you are despite your milque-toast trappings.
Carlton,
I see your point. I bet that happens to Tiger Woods, Will Smith, Halle Berry, and Oprah Winfrey all the time. And yet they still live a disconnected life from the vast majority of black people. Go figure.
Peace
I was talking about you and me-not people that have become household faces. But if you want to throw out every person with blackness that has transcended that “blackness” (usually through no fault of their own except their ambition for more) I can see your point too. It’s the same point we make to our children when we diss ANY person of dark complexion, to include Clarence Thomas and Amos N’ Andy: don’t be TOO sucessful at anything, (especially at garnering the respect or attention of some white folks) or we’ll kick YOU out of the race too. And then we wonder why our children are happier with “less than” or call each other “white” or names like “Pointdexter” when someone in the neighborhood “studies too much” or tries too hard to get along with everyone they come into contact with.
This kind of behavior leads me to believe that a percentage of the more successful of us that leave the old neighborhood aren’t abandoning it-they’re being chased from it. That attitude really disappoints me…like crabs in a barrel, man…crabs in a barrel.
One other thing…all those people you mentioned? They do get reminded they’re black in the way I talked about. Oprah was kicked out of a small Georgia town for being black and assuming she could “love” her way into their hearts. Tiger on the day he was celebrated as “the first black hope” in golf had collard green and chicken jokes told about him. Halle Berry-you always hear how cute she is for a black girl. Will Smith? Well they leave him to the black community to tear down. I grew up with his music played LOUD on the block and thought he was funny and witty. All my friends have dropped him though and make jokes now that that new “Black positive” genre gangsta rap is back and doing so much for the uplifting of the race. And no I’ve got nothing against those brothas either-they’ve got their thing to do. And who can forget all the problems Michael Jackson had just for having white kids in his house, but Pete Townsend was caught using his credit card to access a child porn site and got away scot free. But do what you think is best my brotha, I just hope that when you’re through, there’s some black people left in your box.
Peace and..Out.
Carlton,
Oprah Winfrey got kicked out of a town in Georgia for being black! When did this happen? I have got to read more about this! And just because Fuzzy Zoeller made a joke about Tiger Woods having fried chicken and greens on the menu at the Masters Tournament dinner does not equate that Tiger Woods is suffers from the black condition. And poor Halle Berry! She’s only pretty for a black girl. Who says this? Don’t tell me, let me guess. It was all those people who kicked Oprah Winfrey out of their small town. Dude, you stretch farther than a pair of fruit of the looms on Rush Limbaugh’s ass after a heavy meal.
I didn’t realize you thought I needed any reminders that I come from the black community. Did you really think I thought I would be completely welcomed in posh white communities without suspicion? I get blamed when a soda can explodes in the freezer at work when I just happen to be the only black person in the office and you think I needed some kind of reminder that I come from the black community? I’m sorry, but you really must not read this blog as often as you say.
And why do black people insist that black people don’t care for successful black people? You really do make a lot of assumptions.
Success is not an automatic exclusion for black people. But when black people obtain success at the expense of the black community, or black people who obtain success by helping to reinforce the status quo that keeps black people in a second class status, or black people who obtain success by jigging for white people and reinforcing every stereotype of black people, then we have a problem. It is rather small minded of some black people who claim black people cannot be financially successful and remain in the black community. Success worked for people like Michael Eric Dyson, Dick Gregory, Henry Louis Gates, Bell Hooks, Octavia Butler, and Wyclef Jean. These are black people who manage to become successful and maintain a connection to their black community that doesn’t require them to put other black people down or adhere to any racial stereotypes or racial status quos. It’s just a little more figuring for you to go figure.
There may be some truth in your assumption that this blog doesn’t appeal to the majority of black people in America. Way too many black people think that success requires the previously mentioned jiggy dancing and the buck wild behavior the dominant community requires of black people. Way too many black people are more concerned with personal gain and personal appearance than the condition of the black community. Way too many blacks are more than happy to kick the black community to the curb in order to gain some semblance of success.
Truth be told, I really don’t care if the vast majority of people from the black community don’t care to read this blog. The purpose of my blog is not to stroke the black community’s ego or simply build up a large following at the expense of what I see and feel as the truth. I would think that people with integrity would eschew popularity at the expense of the truth. I beg your pardon but the very idea that you think that I am trying to pull black numbers for the sake of black number is another simplistic assumption on your part.
My blog is intended as nothing more than an expression of what I think and what I observe. The last thing I want is to become another popular distraction for black people by talking up fashion or music or sports. My blog is intended to get people to think about what has happened, what is happening, and what is going to happen to the black community. Thinking and caring has become old fashioned in today’s narcissistic culture. The thinking and caring that signifies compassion for the black community is not only dead but is an invitation to be dismissed as nothing to be taken seriously.
My blog is not intended to have mass appeal to everyone in the black community. In fact, the target audience for my blog isn’t even the people in the black community. My blog is intended for those people, regardless of race, creed, or color, who care about what is happening in the black community. I’m happy to say that there are quite a few black people who enjoy this blog on a regular basis. But then again, I’m happy to say that there are white people who enjoy this blog just as much as any black person could. I’m even happier to say that there are people who come to this blog and I have no clue what their race may be. It’s not important. What is important is that I have something to say and people who are willing to listen to me.
You claim you read my blog on a regular basis. But if that was true, if you truly knew anything about this blog, you would understand where I was coming from. Or maybe you were just coming for the entertainment value. I can understand that, although being somebody’s entertainment was never my intention. It’s just one of those things that happened on its own.
And thank you so much for the suggestion that I should do what I think is best with what I have to say. But I have to admit that I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Peace
I agree with this woman. You need to get a grip. I have so many friends who would roll over laughing at you. Most of them black men. Yes, I’m pointing you out because you are black. Yes, you were blamed for the soda can because you are black. Because EVERYTHING is about “blackness”. *eyeroll My friends make jokes about guys with your mentality all of the time. “Dude, you’re out of toilet paper.” “It’s because I’m black, isn’t it?”
One last thing..The Creator said, “Thou shalt have no other gods before Me.” He didn’t say, “Thous shalt have no other gods before Me EXCEPT YOUR RACE.” Race-worshiper. Idolater.
You may copy and paste this to your buddies at Storm Front, they have the same mind set. Just exchange color designations where necessary.
Thanks for the feedback Michelle,
Oh, I’m so hurt! Your opinion and that of your friends means so much to me! I’ve never had to deal with people disagreeing with me before. How will I get through this? I’m just going to have to copy and paste to any black buddies I can find over at Storm Front who date white women. I’m sure that will make me feel better. KILL F**KING WHITE PEOPLE!!! I’m feeling better already.
Since you’re obviously void of reasoning I guess I should point it out to you and your jovial buddies that I’m not serious about killing white people, even white people of limited intellect like you. And as far as people hanging out at Stormfront, they’re more your type, rather thick in the head and quick to come down on black people who might see things differently from them. I bet you didn’t even read the entire article. Please understand comments from people like you aren’t welcomed here.
Peace
OMG! I am rolling my freaking eyes as well. Where in the post did Brotherpeacemaker say that he thought “blackness” was everything or that black was better than any other race.
Because when someone compares a person to people at stormfront then they are obviously saying that the person thinks that they’re race is best and all others are inferior. So basically Michelle is comparing a racist to a person pointing out race problems. HMMM! Is that a bit like comparing a rapist to a man who has consensual sexual relations with his wife. Pretty pathetic.
But of course I find that a LOT of white people find humor in people pointing out racism and the problems related to it. You know me and my friends laugh at people like Michelle all the time. You know the type. The know it all white person who knows problems in the black community better than any black person would.
Michelle isn’t it time for you and the rest of your friends to pile back into that little car? The ringmaster already closed up the tent. Good bye!
Thanks.
I find this a bit… contradictory? Isn’t the whole concept of “equal opportunity” to be indiscriminant? I guess that’s just MY opinion.
Personally, I was raised in a very typical “white” community. My grandparents are still the elitist germans from WWII. But my personal philosophy on life is I try to judge everything on a case-to-case basis. I apply that to as much of my life as possible, but especially my friendships/relationships. I’ve dated people of almost every nationality. The man that I’m in a relationship right now moved here from Liberia as a child. Because I got to know him as a person first, our nationalities don’t have much of an issue. One thing I can say is that communication was a little difficult at first. Not only considering the accents, but because we both were used to conversing in different ways.
The general point is, even though he is dating me, he hasn’t left his community. To the contrary, we’ve both made a significant effort to get to know each other’s family and come to a common ground and eventually bond with them. Our friend group that we hang out with consists of people of multiple races. So he has, most definately, not left the “black community.”
Thanks for the feedback Liduen,
This is an excerpt from the post that I wrote. All too often, I wish the people who come here and make comments would actually read and take a moment to comprehend what I wrote. Typically, many people simply make comments and assumptions about the subject. All too often those comments are indiscriminate, unrestrained, and wanton.
Peace