Change is inevitable. The winds of change blow constantly and there is no stopping them. You can’t bargain, plead, buy more time nor force it, when it happens it happens and at the perfect time. Too many people are afraid of change, when change can be one of the best things that can happen for a person. The one thing to stop doing is internalizing change and feeling that it is happening to you and not for you. All you have to do is think of all the things that have changed in your life, which must be thousands by now, and think of the consequences that might be if it had or never happened. For example you may often think about a lost love. But what about that lost love? If you were still with them, you have no basis to know that it would have remained a great love. If the winds of change have blown it out of your life, then you no longer needed it.
Problems handling change are mostly due to the internalization of outside forces. Handling change shouldn’t be something taken lightly. In order for you to have a successful life you must be able to handle the changes that come your way. These changes are usually telling you something if you cared to stop and take a look at how they manifest. Most change that occurs might not be intended for you. As things change for others they sometimes have implications for those all around them. So if you are in doubt about how to handle change that is occurring in your life, by all means seek the guidance of Orunmila.
Change isn’t something that one must deal with alone. It is encouraged to share your lives and get help with things. The objective isn’t a test of strength, will, or bravery. It is just another part of life nothing more and nothing less.
When change happens and you feel that somehow this was unfair, since you liked the way things were meaning you were comfortable, you need to take a step back and stop internalizing everything that happens in your life. It is undoubtedly human to feel that everything is all about yourself. But like it is said previously not everything that changes in your life is due to you. Sometimes it is for someone else and it affects you as well. If you are so comfortable that you wish change away, you were stagnated on your path and need to see the change as a boost to keep moving forward in life. You can’t make it to your destination if you are sitting still. Change, even if painful, is still nothing more than a scenic view of life. If a loved one passes on, shouldn’t you rejoice that they are moving on, even if it is without you? Why should this be a bad time in life? would you have them become stagnate just so you can be selfishly happy?
When change doesn’t come and you feel that your situation is unbearable, you also need to take a step back since you might be missing a lesson in the predicament. Or maybe the change isn’t for you but it is dependant upon another. You have to take life at the pace that is set for you. Sometimes it may be fast, sometimes slow, and it all depends on where you are on the path. Remember life is like a road trip, sometimes you will get stuck in traffic.
Knowing your path is the key element to weathering change without too much fuss. When you know where you are going it is a lot easier to see when the changes in the road are coming up. If you are running blind on your path then absolutely you will be blindsided when changes occur. If you are not on your path at all then you will find yourself running into changing situations that end up causing you extreme pain and anguish. It is vital to make sure that you stay on your path and keep change as well as non change into there correct perspectives. Hopefully by reading this it will have some kind of change on the way you think and walk your path.